Monday, 18 November 2013

A Mother’s concern about her child---




This Diwali, I went to meet one of my friend, a very successful businessman and running his own Senior Secondary School, to extend Diwali greetings. His son is studying in one the most reputed schools in the city and the family is proud to acknowledge so. How happy the family was, when his son got selected through a draw system for admission in Prep I, equivalent to LKG. Soon, his academic progress started bothering him and the family. His wife and the grandmother of the child looked quite worried and expressed concern about the inability of the child to perform at par with other children in his class. The mother complained about his slow learning, and not been able to remember the alphabets or numbers. She claims that she tries hard to teach him but the child forgets everything the following day and she has to start again right from the beginning. She got revision assignment sheets from the teacher but the child shows least interest in those papers. The teacher too complained to the mother about his slow progress. The dance teacher told the mother about his inability to remember the steps and was not included in the dance performance put up by the class during the school function

I looked at the child who is as playful as any other normal child. The mother and grandmother expected a remedial measure to correct his learning and develop interest in studies.

I pondered for a while and suggested use of game based teaching. The child likes stories, which all children of his age like. I suggested to use innovative ways to explain concepts, may be story and activity based to attract his maximum attention. The child must feel interested in what he is learning, engaged in what he is doing and happy to work and at the same time challenged to perform and intrinsically rewarded for his new learning. Both the mother and grandmother looked at my face and wondered what kind of methods could they adopt and how can they evolve innovative ways to engage him. They justified doing everything that the teacher told them.

Well, it was the beginning of my further research into what possibly could be the reasons and what more could be done to support the child and the parents in directing effective learning ?

I met the teacher and the head of the Kindergarten in his school, asking what could such parents or the teacher do help the child..

This is a case of desperate parents seeking help to understand real cause of his low pace of learning.
My findings of the case are simple but thought provoking:-

The child in the present case is only 5 years of age. He is playful and has access to all types of toys. He watches cartoon programmes in his free time, which most of the children in present time do. He has every kind of toy with him. Parents being busy are not helping him develop his cognitive processes and letting him experience whatever is exposed to and let the school suggest ways to encourage his engagement. The interest of the child is obviously more in the toys, the TV shows and the games he plays rather in Alphabets or the numbers which are being taught in traditional ways. He is overloaded with information and is perhaps confused what he should really remember.

Then where is the fault. I did talk to another friend of mine, who is a psychiatrist by profession. He put many questions which the parents can only answer better than me:

How is his social behaviour?
How does he react to new things?
Does he break his toys or is destructive by nature?
How are his reflexes to the objects? Slow or fast … and many more such questions…

Well, these are some of the challenges we educators face in our daily routine. I leave this platform open for opinions and suggestions of professionals and educators so that all can benefit from each other’s experiences and learning.


Thanks
J.K.Saini

5 comments:

  1. My heart goes out to the child after reading your very thought-provoking post J.K. The sense of helplessness the family is feeling is something I have also observed among some of my friends and hear them discussing some of the 'learning' challenges their children face. Perhaps one important aspect is to understand and recognize that each child is different and unique...so while their physical development may have standard milestones perhaps it may not be appropriate to have standardized cognitive milestones that they are expected to meet at each age. For instance, maybe not all children can learn the alphabet at 5...it should be okay for them to learn it at 6 if their physical and mental development is not overly under-developed. I also feel schools might - mistakenly -over-emphasize the 'targets' they set as progress milestones...X child is already counting while yours is not etc. So while educators must think deeply about facilitating learning and development in a constructive manner, I think that both educators and parents should re-evaluate their expectations and progress indicators.

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    1. A child at the age of 5 or below must not be pressurized to hold a pencil and write. The gap of 6 months between two children in a class makes a lot of difference in the functioning of the brain. Parents and teachers should never compare at that tender age. At that age they are not understanding but just repeating what they hear.

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    2. Good point about the age difference between children in the same class Vasu....it does make a difference especially at a young age!

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  2. At this tender age the child will not be able to express her difficulty. May be the child is suffering from hearing problems and that is why she is not able to follow instructions. If there is no health problems her mother must give personal attention and keep talking to the child as soon as she reaches home in an informal manner so that the child feels secured and express her feelings to her mother. The child is to small to categorize her a weak child.The parents should not lose faith and keep working hard till she shows significant improvement. The attention deficit problem can also be removed completely with love and care.

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    1. Very pertinent observation about possibility of a hearing problem...I agree Vasu. And also that the child is too young to be evaluated as 'weak'. A lot of positive attention and initiatives would definitely be needed.

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